The Resolute Woman

Author: resolutewoman

  • Congratulations, Jay

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    I remember vividly how worried I was when my son Jay left for college. “How will he ever make it at college without his parents to remind him to return his library books and to wear a jacket when it’s cold?” I asked my husband Jerry. “He will do fine,” Jerry reassured me. “Anyway, he’s…

  • Words of wisdom from Elizabeth Smart

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    Elizabeth Smart survived kidnapping and months of physical abuse when she was taken from her home in Salt Lake City in 2002. She was only 14. Now 10 years later, she is married and she has started a foundation that is devoted to helping young people avoid or recover from violence. During a recent visit…

  • Do you have good boundaries?

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    Many women  come to me for counseling because they have bad boundaries. Some of them didn’t develop good boundaries as the result of physical abuse when they were children. They may have had parents who hit them, slapped them or said mean things to them. Even women who were never abused often are encouraged to…

  • Complain carefully

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    Julie, a woman who has developed good boundaries, knows that it’s healthy to confide in a close friend about problems she’s having with her supervisor at work. Talking to someone about how she feels about a colleague who was given a promotion that she thinks she deserves helps diffuse her anger. It also might help…

  • Remember Carol Burnett?

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    Thanks to my friend Kerry—and especially thanks to her father, who bought two tickets and couldn’t attend the show, I recently was invited to see Carol Burnett perform. Carol Burnett, I’m sure you remember, entertained for 11 years on “The Carol Burnett Show” with an average of 30 million viewers every week. I am happy…

  • Spring cleaning advice from Anna Quindlen

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    Anna Quindlen has a new book called Lots of Candles, Plenty of Cake, and we’ll write more about it after we’ve read it. But, we thought Anna’s wise words about “stuff” might be helpful immediately. In her new book, Anna Quindlen says: “I have a lot of stuff. I bet you do, too….There was a…

  • What would you take with you?

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    I was busy, returning from a house that I am helping a client sell, but, on an impulse, I stopped at an estate sale. I was impressed by the house and also puzzled. It was still filled with beautiful, expensive furniture. I saw an elegant desk and stopped to inspect it, wishing I had room…

  • A simple question about children

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    I called the University of Tulsa because I had a question about graduation on May 5. In case you haven’t heard, my son Jay is graduating! And, he has been admitted to the MBA program at the University of Tulsa. And, he has been awarded a big scholarship. We’re ready to celebrate. “I’m a parent,”…

  • Joy and service

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    Service is a part of life that is connected to joy, says James Martin in his book Between Heaven and Mirth: Why Joy, Humor and Laughter Are at the Heart of Spiritual Life. Martin quotes the Indian writer and Nobel laureate Rabindranath Tagore, who wrote: “I slept and dreamt that life was joy. I awoke…

  • “A hidden smile from within”

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    We’ve just read a delightful book by the Jesuit priest James Martin—Between Heaven and Mirth: Why Joy, Humor and Laughter Are at the Heart of the Spiritual Life. The book is filled with reminders about the importance of humor and laughter in our lives. Of course, Martin reminds us that we’re not supposed to be…