The Resolute Woman

Category: goals

  • How to achieve effective self-management

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    My daughter Mary Elizabeth, who is working on a master’s degree in behavior analysis, heard Ian Ayres, author of Carrots and Sticks: Unlock the Power of Incentives to Get Things Done, speak at the 38th annual meeting of the Association for Behavior Analysis meeting in Seattle in May. In his speech, Ayres discussed three factors…

  • A sense of accomplishment

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    For months, I’ve felt a little depressed every time I’ve looked at all of the boxes that we crammed into the garage when my husband and I moved into my mother’s house. Not anymore.  We finally took the time to sort through the boxes, sending piles of clothes and miscellaneous items to a charity. I…

  • Lessons from Roz Savage

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    Roz Savage spoke at my son Jay’s graduation at the University of Tulsa. Have you heard of Roz Savage? I hadn’t. Now I know that she was the first woman to row across three oceans—the Atlantic, Pacific and Indian. She has rowed more than 15,000 miles, sometimes braving 20-foot waves, once capsizing three times in…

  • “Gentle and kind, principled, ever curious”

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    I just finished reading Anthony Shadid’s thoughtful book House of Stone: A Memoir of Home, Family and a Lost Middle East. Anthony, you may remember from an earlier blog post, is the son of Fayteen’s cousin Rhonda. He also worked as a foreign correspondent for The New York Times before he died in Syria earlier…

  • Divide your life into chapters

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    Recently David Brooks, the New York Times columnist, asked people over 70 to send him essays about their lives and what they have done poorly or well. One of Brooks’ conclusions after reading all of these essays was: Divide your life into chapters. According to Brooks, the people who see “time as an unbroken flow,…

  • Deciding to delay writing resolutions

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    In our last blog post, we explained that this year we’re listing our accomplishments for 2011 instead of our resolutions for 2012 on New Year’s Day. That doesn’t mean we’re not going to make goals for the new year. We’re big believers in making goals. What we’re going to do is make a decision to…

  • We’re not making New Year’s resolutions

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    We not going to make a single New Year’s Resolution this year. We’re not going to berate ourselves about the everything we didn’t accomplish during 2011. We’re not going to make new goals to finish our book, exercise more and clean closets. Instead, on New Year’s Day, we’re going to make a list of everything…

  • Do you need to repack your bags?

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    While I was in New Mexico recently visiting my brother, I read an article in the Albuquerque Journal about a lecture by Richard Leider, author of Repacking Your Bags: Lighten Your Load for the Rest of Your Life. I like Leider’s metaphor, which originated when he was on a walking safari and a tribal elder,…

  • Rethinking middle age

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    In a recent blog post, we shared some quotes from Anne Morrow Lindbergh’s lovely, little book Gift from the Sea. We thought about one of those quotes recently when we read an interview with Laura Cartensen in the October 11, 2011, issue of The Dallas Morning News. In 1955, Lindbergh asked: “For is it not…

  • Do you make others feel significant?

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    We talked about the importance of significance in our last blog post. If feeling significant is a central issue for all of us, think about how important it is to help others feel significant. When you’re talking to someone, are you distracted or are you really listening and trying to understand? Making the effort to…