The Resolute Woman

Category: advice

  • How to achieve effective self-management

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    My daughter Mary Elizabeth, who is working on a master’s degree in behavior analysis, heard Ian Ayres, author of Carrots and Sticks: Unlock the Power of Incentives to Get Things Done, speak at the 38th annual meeting of the Association for Behavior Analysis meeting in Seattle in May. In his speech, Ayres discussed three factors…

  • The bad news and the good news

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    My son Jay just got a new car. That’s the good news. And the bad news? The third day Jay was driving the car, he called his father. “The car is okay,” he said, “but….” My husband panicked immediately. His mind leaping ahead after Jay’s first words, he feared a terrible accident. Jay had turned…

  • Try the Goldilocks approach

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    What’s the Goldilocks approach? Remember the girl with the golden ringlets? She visited the Three Bears, looked at what they had to offer and took what suited her best. You can do the same when you get advice from books or friends or people who are supposed to be experts. Think about the advice that’s…

  • Words of wisdom from Elizabeth Smart

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    Elizabeth Smart survived kidnapping and months of physical abuse when she was taken from her home in Salt Lake City in 2002. She was only 14. Now 10 years later, she is married and she has started a foundation that is devoted to helping young people avoid or recover from violence. During a recent visit…

  • We all have texture

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    Jeannette Walls, the best-selling author of The Glass Castle, told the audience at a recent benefit for The Stewpot about dating a man from a family of privilege. When she revealed to him that she has burn scars from a childhood accident, he said: “Don’t ever apologize for your scars. They show you survived.” Walls…

  • The search for wisdom

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    We heard an interview with Dr. Karl Pillemer, professor of human development at Cornell University and the author of a book called Thirty Lessons for Living—Tried and True Advice from the Wisest Americans. Pillemer asked people who have lived 70 or more years to share their wisdom and came up with 30 lessons. The book…

  • Alternatives to “I can’t”

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    I was reminded of Daniel Pink and his book A Whole New Mind—Why Right Brainers Will Rule the Future when I saw a sign posted in the art room at Hamilton Park Elementary School in Dallas. Pink advises us to substitute “and” for “but.” For example, instead of telling yourself, “I would like to learn…

  • A valid nugget or two

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    I just finished reading Daniel Pink’s book A Whole New Mind—Why Right-Brainers Will Rule the Future. I liked it. I really liked Pink’s assessment of “peddlers of the savior theory” in the beginning of the book. Pink lists peddlers of “right-brain cooking and right-brain dieting, right-brain investing and right-brain accounting, right-brain jogging and right-brain horseback…

  • Some advice from Gloria Steinem

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    We recently saw the HBO documentary “Gloria Steinem: In Her Own Words,” which tells the story of a remarkable woman. Gloria Steinem spent her teenage years taking care of her mentally ill mother in Toledo, Ohio, founded Ms. Magazine in 1971, became a spokesperson for feminists and married for the first time at age 66.…

  • Some advice from Steve Jobs

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    We heard a news clip from a speech Steve Jobs made at commencement at Stanford University in June 2005—and, of course, it was easy to find a transcript of the speech online. His advice is worth repeating: When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: “If you live each day as…