Category: friends

  • The manly Mr. Rogers

    Mr. Rogers showed us what it means to be a neighbor—and also what it means to be a man, writes David Roark in the June 17, 2018, issue of The Dallas Morning News. “Explicitly and implicitly, we’ve indoctrinated males to be tough, harsh and domineering, to avoid emotions and, in turn, to dominate, demean and…

  • Won’t You Be My Neighbor?

    Fred Rogers believed everyone “has inherent dignity,” writes Alissa Wilkinson on Vox. The new documentary “Won’t You Be My Neighbor?” succeeds, Wilkinson says, “on the radically subversive and obvious notions we learned when we were children: that being nice is not a weakness, that speaking with care is a thing we do simply because we…

  • Friends and families

    I bought a small pottery dish inscribed with these words for my friend’s birthday present: “Friends are the families we choose.” While I was fishing for my credit card, the woman behind the counter announced, “That’s what I tell my next-door neighbor.” And, then, she told me about last Thanksgiving. Her son wanted to do…

  • Talk less. Listen more.

    Todd Davis reminds us of the importance of listening in his book Get Better—15 Proven Practices to Build Effective Relationships at Work. “One of the most profound gifts you can give another human being is your sincere understanding,” he writes. “To do so requires clearing away your mental clutter, suspending (at least temporarily) your agenda…

  • I am wealthy

    On Valentine’s Day, I will be thankful for my husband—and my children—and for my big circle of friends and family. “I am wealthy in my friends,” Shakespeare once wrote. And, I am wealthy because I count many of my family members as friends, too. And, many of my friends are like family! –Joy

  • What a privilege

    “When you arise in the morning, think what a privilege it is to be alive—to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love.” What a great quote from Marcus Aurelius. Valentine’s Day is coming. It’s time to show how much you love your family and friends.

  • The Three Ts

    Dana Suskind lists the three Ts for interacting with a child in her book Thirty Million Words—tune in, talk more and take turns. I think her three Ts apply to successful interaction with children and adults. Here is Suskind’s brief explanation. “In order for the necessary serve-and-return of conversational interaction to be successful, there has…

  • A world without sun

    “Robbing the world of friendship is like robbing the world of sun,” Cicero said in 44 BCE. I found this quote in the book The Social Sex—A History of Female Friendship by Marilyn Yalom with Theresa Donovan Brown. Of course, Cicero believed only men were capable of friendship—not women! –Joy

  • Advice from a lobster

    “Don’t be shellfish,” proclaims my “Advice from a Lobster” t-shirt from Maine. I followed that advice while we were on vacation—except when I was eating my blueberry pie. I was selfish when I picked the biggest piece. My lobster t-shirt also suggests: • Don’t get yourself in hot water. • Be a good catch. •…

  • Nothing to do

    I hurried to get ready for a trip to Maine. I had a long list of things to do before we left, including lunch with a friend and invitations to a birthday party. I got almost everything done and arrived at a cabin in the woods ready to sit by the lake, go hiking and…