Category: advice

  • Speak to strangers

    Carme, a character in Isabel Allende’s book A Long Petal of the Sea, “resolved to speak to strangers, since she had discovered that people like to talk, and it only took a couple of questions to make friends and find out lots of things.” What’s important about this reminder from Carme? Ask questions! And, listen.

  • Life is how we tell it

    Carme, a character in Isabel Allende’s book A Long Petal of the Sea, wrote down her recollections. She wrote them down “as a precaution, in case at some point her memory began to fail her. She embellished the facts, because she was aware that life is how we tell it.” What story do you tell…

  • As old as you feel

    A British magazine wanted to honor Queen Elizabeth, who is 95 and will celebrate 70 years as queen in 2022, as “Oldie of the Year.” Elizabeth declined the honor. “Her Majesty believes you are as old as you feel, as such The Queen does not believe she meets the relevant criteria to be able to…

  • Be a lady

    This week, I am remembering Ruth Bader Ginsburg, who died a year ago in September—and I am remembering one of my favorite RBG quotes. “My mother told me to be a lady. And for her, that meant be your own person, be independent,” RBG once said. –Joy

  • Just do something

    “Organize, don’t agonize” is one of Nancy Pelosi’s mantras.

  • Be prepared

    Before she was the Speaker of the House, Nancy Pelosi was the mother of five. She had five children in the span of six years and one week. In her book Madam Speaker—Nancy Pelosi and the Lessons of Power, Susan Page reports that Pelosi drilled into her children an unofficial family motto—“Proper preparation prevents poor…

  • Be better

    I heard these four words from someone on PBS recently, and they have been circulating in my head. I am not sure who said them on PBS or why. The words: “Be better—not bitter.” I checked online and found a quote from the writer Jennifer Williamson. “If you’re here now, trying to be better for…

  • A flood of kisses

    Rebekah Taussig, writing in the May 24/May 31 issue of Time magazine, says that she has a tradition of giving her partner Micah and her son Otto a flood of kisses every morning when they leave the house. “I hope we are teaching Otto to be brave and also kind,” she writes, “to take good…

  • Be brave

    Rebekah Taussig wonders how to teach her son to be true to himself. In the May 24/May 31 issue of Time magazine, she writes, “How do I teach him to be brave? To hold on to himself when the opinions of others are loud and everywhere.”

  • Everything will be okay

    This is an interesting quote to think about!? John Lennon once said, “Everything will be okay in the end. If it’s not okay, it’s not the end.”