Of course, you are. We all have been resolute—even though some of us have perfected being resolute more than others.
Remember when you first learned to walk? When you first learned to walk, you were resolute. You pulled yourself up and were happy just to stand, unsteadily, holding on to a chair. You took a step or two from the chair to the coffee table. You fell down over and over, but you were ready to do it again. You kept practicing and practicing, and, with every bit of progress, you smiled. You were proud of what you had accomplished.
If you can be resolute, you have a tool you can use to achieve what you want to accomplish in your personal and your professional life. Being resolute is required for learning a skill—like playing tennis. It’s required when you want to make a new friend. It helps you succeed at child rearing or job hunting or getting good reviews from your supervisor.
For Fayteen, the story about learning to walk provides the best definition of the Resolute Woman. “What’s important,” she explains, “is not giving up, even when you think you’re falling. You keep working until the task is complete and then you move on to the next task.”
You are a Resolute Woman if you accept that:
- Life isn’t easy.
- Life isn’t fair.
- You probably aren’t going to be rescued by a Fairly Godmother or Prince Charming. Your children are wonderful, but far from perfect. And, your boss has good points and bad points.
- You’re going to have to work very hard to get what you want.
- You can’t have everything you want, but you can have a productive and rich life filled with much happiness.
Who is the Resolute Woman?
Here’s our list of characteristics that describe the Resolute Woman. Which of these characteristics describe you? Which characteristics are your strengths? Which characteristics to do you need to work on strengthening?
The Resolute Woman has a plan. She has taken the time to think carefully about her goals. She knows what she wants to achieve, and she has a plan for achieving it.
The Resolute Woman is unique. She defines herself. She rejects society’s confining definitions, and she speaks her own truths. She knows who she is and what is most important in her life.
The Resolute Woman is not superwoman. She has established priorities. She doesn’t try to do the impossible.
The Resolute Woman isn’t looking for easy answers. She knows that most of us don’t get rich quick. That there’s no easy way to lose 10 pounds. That there’s no quick method for civilizing a child.
The Resolute Woman is strong. She hasn’t figured everything out, but she’s willing to work hard. She keeps working toward her goals even when she encounters many obstacles. She knows important things require a great deal of effort.
The Resolute Woman takes risks. She’s willing to try a new approach. She’s willing to find a different solution. She’s willing to keep working until she finds the solution that’s exactly right for her.
The Resolute Woman is independent. She doesn’t sit around waiting for a Fairy Godmother or for Prince Charming to ask for her hand in marriage. And, when she gets married, she keeps developing her own interests and passions.
The Resolute Woman builds strong relationships. People are important in her life. She is surrounded by a circle of family and friends.
The Resolute Woman is confident of her success. She’s no Pollyanna. She’s realistic. She knows that the solution for most problems is not just a smile and a positive attitude. But she knows that a smile and a positive attitude and a lot of hard work can help.
She defines her own success. She’s not perfect. She hasn’t achieved all of her goals. But she already is a success.