We’ve all made goals. To find a new job. To buy a new house. To make a new friend. Sometimes we succeed. Sometimes we try hard, and we still don’t succeed.
There is no secret, easy way to achieving most goals. Succeeding at most goals requires hard work and tenacity. You have to be resolute!
You’ll increase your success rate if you follow these rules:
- Define your goals
- Write down specific, measurable goals.
- Be realistic.
- Keep on track.
- Establish priorities.
Here are a few examples from our experiences.
Fayteen considers her priorities.
You probably play many roles and have many things to do. Sometimes, you may be so busy that you don’t take time to set priorities. Even though you may be accomplishing a great deal, you may not be accomplishing the goals that are most important to you.
Often we get so busy concentrating on short-term goals, such as finishing the project that’s due tomorrow, that we neglect important long-term goals, such as finding a new job.
Fayteen was married with two children, but she was thinking about getting a divorce. Many people considered her to be a success, and she was. She was working as a model and acting in commercials. However, she had other dreams. She realized that she couldn’t continue as a successful model forever. Also, she met many women who were so interested in improving their “outsides” that they neglected to work on their “insides.” She wanted to help these women, but she knew that she would have to go back to school and learn new skills to become a counselor.
Her first priority was taking care of her children. How could she go back to school? She did it slowly. She knew her first goal was the take care of her children and her second goal was to go to college. Her first step was to take two classes at a community college.
Joy finds out how to get rich and famous.
When Joy was taking an economics class at the University of Dallas, the professor shared a secret with his students. IF your goal is to be rich and if you’re willing to pursue that goal and do whatever it takes to become wealthy, you can do it.
All you have to do is rob a bank. Of course, your wealth will be fleeting, and you may end up notorious instead of famous. Keep in mind that achieving that goal may interfere with other goals you have. For example, you may find it difficult to lose weight if you’re eating starchy prison food.
You need to measure your progress.
It’s easy to say that you want to lose weight or be a better parent or find a new job. But what exactly are you going to do? How are you going to measure your success? Consider job hunting, for example. Eventually, you hope that you succeed and find a new job. But, how are you going to measure your progress today or this week while you make phone calls and rewrite your resume. Are you going to make five phone calls every week? Are you going to finish rewriting your resume by the end of the month?
You might need some help to lose weight.
Many women would like to lose weight. Why do you want to lose weight? Do you want to be healthier? Do you want to look better?
Your first goal might be to eat a healthy breakfast. Exactly what are you going to eat every morning?
After you’ve been eating a healthy breakfast every morning for three weeks, then make another specific, measurable goal. Make a goal to avoid snacks in between meals. Or, decide to walk a mile in the morning.
Sometimes we need a little help making and achieving our goals. After decades of gaining and losing weight, Joy joined Weight Watchers. She made two specific, measurable goals—to weigh in at Weight Watchers once a week and to count Weight Watcher points every day. With the help of a sensible program, she lost more than 60 pounds and she has kept those pounds off for more than six years.
For more information about making goals, read this blog about getting from here to there.