My husband Jerry reminds me that we are not quarantined. We just are practicing social distancing. We are not going anywhere or having contact with anyone until there is no danger from the coronavirus.. It’s the two of us and our dog Jack together in our house—for who knows how long. One day a week […]
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Waking dreamers
by resolutewoman on March 7, 2020 in peace, stress, Uncategorized
Edward Wilson, the biologist, explained why we sometimes feel stressed. “Humanity today,” Wilson said, “is like a waking dreamer, caught between the fantasies of sleep and the chaos of the real world. The mind seeks but cannot find the precise place and hour. We have created a Star Wars civilization, with Stone Age emotions, medieval […]
Survival of the friendliest
by resolutewoman on February 27, 2020 in friends, health, Uncategorized
Friends are good for your health, says Lydia Denworth, author of Friendship: The Evolution, Biology and Exraordinary Power of Life’s Fundamental Bond. Having friends can improve the health of your cardiovascular system, your immune system and your brain. “People think all the time about competition and survival of the fittest, but really it’s survival of […]
The shelter of a friend
by resolutewoman on February 25, 2020 in friends, hope, peace, Uncategorized
I talked to three friends on the phone last night–Lynn, my best friend in high school. Barbara, another friend since high school. And, Marjorie, who worked with me more than 30 years ago, before my daughter was born. After our conversations, I felt better! I was reminded of a quote from Emily Dickinson, “I felt […]
Let our love be loud
by resolutewoman on February 11, 2020 in love, Uncategorized, work
“Let our prayers be silent,” says Chett Pritchett. “Let our work be visible. Let our love be loud.” My friend Kerry Smith, a Methodist minister, quoted Pritchett in her church’s weekly online newsletter. –Joy
Female-female alliances
by resolutewoman on February 4, 2020 in animals, change, resolute-women, Uncategorized
When Ashley Judd studied at Harvard, her favorite course was Gender Violence, Law and Social Justice, taught by Diane Rosenfield. The class learned about bonobo apes, “who over the course of evolution have eliminated male sexual coercion in their communities. If a male does get aggressive toward a female bonobo, she lets out a special […]
Think
by resolutewoman on February 1, 2020 in change, character, Uncategorized
“Evil comes from a failure to think,” Hannah Arendt wrote in her book Eichmann in Jerusalem: A Report on the Banality of Evil. “It defies thought for as soon as thought tries to engage itself with evil and examine the premises and principles from which it originates, it is frustrated because it finds nothing there. […]
Just the way you are
by resolutewoman on January 28, 2020 in advice, families, friends, love, Uncategorized
“I like you just the way you are,” Mr. Rogers once said. That is my favorite Mr. Rogers quote—one of many on my new Mr. Rogers mug. A photo of Mr. Rogers in his dark coat is on the mug. However, when I add hot tea, his dark coat magically turns into a yellow sweater! […]
Judging people
by resolutewoman on January 21, 2020 in advice, change, resolute-women, Uncategorized
“I … try to teach through my opinions, through my speeches, how wrong it is to judge people on the basis of what they look like, color of their skin, whether they’re men or women,” Ruth Bader Ginsburg once said. For Christmas, I received a copy of the book Pocket RBG Wisdom—and some RBG socks […]
Real change
by resolutewoman on January 18, 2020 in change, resolute-women, Uncategorized
“Generally, change in our society is incremental, I think,” says Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsberg. “Real change, enduring change, happens one step at a time.” For Christmas, I received a copy of the book Pocket RBG Wisdom—and some RBG socks and an RBG mug. –Joy
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