Every morning when the alarm goes off, I hesitate a minute. And, then I tell myself: “Get up and do your exercises!” I do them. Every morning. Even when I would much prefer to be sleeping a bit longer. Soon, I’m finished. I’ve learned that I need to do my exercises immediately—as soon as I [...]
I cut out and saved the Luann comic strip in the March 6, 2016, issue of The Dallas Morning News. “Ugh!,” Luann says. “I found this list of New Year’s Resolutions I made when I was 12, and here’s the list I made nine weeks ago.” “What’s wrong?” Luann’s friend asks, as she begins to [...]
“Many people die with their music still in them,” Oliver Wendell Holmes once said. “Why is this so? Too often it is because they are always getting ready to live. Before they know it, time runs out.” That’s good advice for starting a new project—even though it’s summer, even though it’s not the traditional time [...]
Of course, you are! And that’s why you procrastinate, says David Allen, author of Getting Things Done, The Art of Stress-Free Productivity. I was listening to an abridged, audio version of Allen’s book this morning while I was walking my dog Ginger, and I was relieved to learn that I must be creative, sensitive and [...]
We promised in an earlier blog post that we were going to stop writing about procrastinating and spend our time doing some of the things we have been putting off. But we can’t resist procrastinating just long enough to share what we learned from an article in The New Yorker. Written by James Surowiecki for [...]
At least, we’re going to stop writing about procrastinating We decided we had said enough after Joy heard a caller on a radio talk show ask for suggestions to help her stop procrastinating. Within a few minutes, several people had responded with books for the woman to read. Another caller told her to buy a [...]
One of Fayteen’s good friends read our blog and then called to share his grandfather’s cure for procrastination. His grandfather always instructed him to write down three things that he wanted to accomplish during the day. Then, his grandfather emphasized, do the one thing that you don’t want to do first. The grandfather was providing [...]
Fayteen and I have been working on our book for a long time. ( I must admit that I am embarrassed to say how long.) Finally, last year we decided that we would start a blog and then finish the book while we are doing the blog. We are blogging! But we are not finishing [...]
My friend Suzie Humphreys gave me some important feedback after she read the blog post I wrote recently about procrastination. Suzie reminded me that, of course, it’s okay to procrastinate on writing a blog post when you’re taking care of your daughter who is battling breast cancer. Thank you, Suzie. You are right. When someone [...]
He’s talking about us! When we read Daniel Akst’s description of procrastination in his book We Have Met the Enemy—Self-Control in an Age of Excess, we were momentarily taken aback. This author had figured out exactly what’s happening when we procrastinate. First, we know we’re procrastinating. “Procrastination is a ruse,” Akst says. “We know what’s [...]
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