The United Nations Commission on the Status of Women, in a report issued in March 2023, warns that progress won over decades is vanishing because “the patriarchy is fighting back.” Women’s rights are being “abused, threatened and violated” around the world and gender equality won’t be achieved for 300 years if we stay on the […]
Listen
by resolutewoman on September 27, 2022 in character, friends, patience, secrets
Elizabeth Strout, one of my favorite authors, reports that she never took a literature course and she never took a psychology course. Instead, she listens to people. “I have listened and listened and listened my whole life,” Strout says. “If you listen carefully enough, people will tell you exactly the kind of person they are.” […]
Making connections?!
by resolutewoman on September 6, 2022 in friends, patience, Uncategorized
I am always intrigued by how I “connect” with some people immediately while I take weeks or months to connect with other people—and I never connect with some people. As Michelle Huneven says in her book Search, “I didn’t hate her. I didn’t dislike her. We simply didn’t connect.” –Joy
How long until we’re free?
by resolutewoman on July 21, 2022 in change, hope, patience, Uncategorized
And how many years can some people existBefore they’re allowed to be free?The answer, my friend, is blowin’ in the wind.The answer is blowin’ in the wind. Those are words from Bob Dylan, of course, and they were written decades ago. I recently visited the new Bob Dylan Center in Tulsa, Oklahoma. –Joy
No simple solutions?
by resolutewoman on April 2, 2022 in advice, change, patience, resolute-women, Uncategorized
Of course, there are no simple solutions. But, are our problems too complex to solve? Here’s what Madeleine Albright once said: “I have spent a lifetime looking for remedies to all manner of life’s problems — personal, social, political, global. I am deeply suspicious of those who offer simple solutions and statements of absolute certainty […]
A snail day
by resolutewoman on December 9, 2021 in animals, holidays, overwhelmed, patience
I’ve written Christmas cards, mailed packages and invited friends to my house for a birthday lunch. Today I am moving at a slower pace, and I am reminded of lines from a children’s book—Tiger Days by M.H. Clark. On snail days, I go slowly In everything I do. And, I might take a Little while, […]
Don’t worry
by resolutewoman on September 18, 2021 in courage, happiness, hope, patience, Uncategorized
My friend says that we should live for today—and not worry too much about tomorrow. Live in the moment. As Charles Schulz said, “Don’t worry about the world coming to an end today. It is already tomorrow in Australia.” –Joy
The fury of patience
by resolutewoman on September 16, 2021 in patience
My next-door neighbor Jane and I have agreed. When we get so fed up with this pandemic that we feel like screaming, we will meet in the alley behind our houses and scream. As the poet John Dryden once said, “Beware the fury of a patient man.” Or woman! –Joy
Patience!
by resolutewoman on September 14, 2021 in change, patience
I am tired of the pandemic. I am tired of Texas’ new voting laws and abortion laws. I am tired of hearing about all of the problems facing this world. I want change. Immediately! That’s how I feel, and that’s why a card from a friend was timely. The card quoted Emerson, who said, “Adopt […]
Be patient
by resolutewoman on August 28, 2021 in patience
We’ve been waiting for my husband Jerry to feel better. Now for his surgery. And, of course, for this pandemic to end. We wait sometimes with patience. Sometimes without much patience. Patience is required. As Ghandi once said, “To lose patience is to lose the battle.” –Joy
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