If you are a mother, never forget that you have done—or you are doing—important work. “If you bungle raising your children, I don’t think whatever else you do well matters very much,” Jacqueline Kennedy Onasis once said.
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Tired, but happy
by resolutewoman on May 8, 2018 in holidays, mothers
I have a new, improved plan for Mother’s Day! We had planned to visit our son Jay in Tulsa during Memorial Day weekend, but he’s going to be busy that weekend. He has become a serious swing dancer, and he will be attending a special swing dancing event. So, we’re going to Tulsa for Mother’s […]
A deep sense of satisfaction
by resolutewoman on May 16, 2017 in mothers, sexism
It’s sometime in the 1970s when Marilyn’s mother dies and Marilyn finds her mother’s Betty Crocker cookbook, “spine cracking and mended, twice with Scotch tape.” Marilyn, a character in the book Everything I Never Told You by Celeste Ng, flips through the book, reading. “Always cookies in the cookie jar! Is there a happier symbol […]
If men had babies
by resolutewoman on September 20, 2016 in mothers, work
I found a card in an antique shop in Bellingham, Washington, and I couldn’t resist buying it for my friend Kathleen, who is supposed to have her second baby before the end of the month. The card shows a funky illustration of two men—one is sitting behind a desk and talking—and the other is wearing […]
A smart cookie
by resolutewoman on May 19, 2016 in book, confidence, mothers
“’I could’ve been somebody, you know?’ my mother says,” Sandra Cisneros writes about Esperanza’s mother in her book The House on Mango Street, the story of a young girl growing up in the Latino section of Chicago. The mother “has lived in this city her whole life. She can speak two languages. She can sing […]
Read a long book
by resolutewoman on May 12, 2016 in book, mothers
James Patterson, the author, is planning to publish books for people who don’t read. These new BookShots novels will be shorter, cheaper, more plot-driven and more widely available. My first reaction when I read about Patterson’s plans in the March 22, 2016, issue of The Dallas Morning News was to vow to find a very […]
What it’s like to be a mother
by resolutewoman on February 25, 2016 in children, mothers
“D.C.” was one of many women incarcerated at the David L. Moss Criminal Justice Center in Tulsa, but this particular prisoner took a poetry class and wrote a poem that’s published in a slim book called Poetic Justice. She writes that being a mother is: “like sunshine sometimes. It’s a wonderful melody.” And, then, it […]
The good intentions of a busy woman
by resolutewoman on September 17, 2015 in children, mothers, overwhelmed
Today, sometimes when I think I’m busy, I remember all that I used to do when I was running my business and running after two active children at the same time. I was reminded of those action-packed days when I found an entry in my journal from April 2009. The entry was about a thank […]
Happy Mother’s Day!
by resolutewoman on May 10, 2014 in caregivers, mothers
Elizabeth Warren, United States senator, remembers when she was a professor at the University of Houston and the mother of two young children. “The new job was hard, and at home my world was stretched to the breaking point. I traded car-pool duties, took my turn as a Girl Scout leader, taught Sunday School for […]
A mother’s job
by resolutewoman on November 16, 2013 in children, mothers
My son, Jay, is in the middle of job-hunting adventures. He has had three interviews with one company that he really would like to work for, and someone from that company is supposed to call him with news—good or bad—during the next week. Jerry, his father, and I hope the news is good. “I’m worried […]
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