I never have liked the word “nice.” Somehow, it always seems a bit trite, but the word is packed with a lot of information. That’s why I like this quote by anonymous. “Treat everyone with kindness, even those who are rude to you, not because they are nice but because you are.” –Joy
Remember kindness
by resolutewoman on March 3, 2022 in families, friends, kindness
I sometimes have to remind myself that I can be kind to everyone. “Kindness is in our power even when fondness is not,” Henry James once said. –Joy
Don’t be yourself
by resolutewoman on February 26, 2022 in advice, kindness
I like this quote—a lot. It comes from “anonymous,” and I don’t remember where I found it. “Don’t be yourself. Be someone nicer.” –Joy
Tolerate fools gladly?!
by resolutewoman on January 13, 2022 in change, holidays, kindness, Uncategorized
Be kind. Be kinder. That’s always a good resolution. And, here’s a timely resolution that I received on a Happy New Year 2022 postcard. “New Year’s resolution: To tolerate fools more gladly, provided they get the jab.” The postcard, of course, is a kindly reminder that we all need to get vaccinated and boosted. –Joy
Speak to strangers
by resolutewoman on December 7, 2021 in advice, friends, kindness
Carme, a character in Isabel Allende’s book A Long Petal of the Sea, “resolved to speak to strangers, since she had discovered that people like to talk, and it only took a couple of questions to make friends and find out lots of things.” What’s important about this reminder from Carme? Ask questions! And, listen.
Thanks and giving
by resolutewoman on November 27, 2021 in celebrations, holidays, kindness, thankfulness
My friend Lynn sent me a note with a quote I really like. It’s appropriate for Thanksgiving—and for the entire holiday season. “May your heart be filled with both—thanks and giving!” –Joy
A better literary infrastructure?
by resolutewoman on August 19, 2021 in balance, character, kindness
Tracy Dahlby, a journalism professor at the University of Texas at Austin, argues, in an article in The Dallas Morning News, that this country needs a better literary infrastructure. Today, no worker in words rates the kind of status that Ernest Hemingway had during his lifetime, Dahlby says. “Our quicksilver, digital lives don’t easily tolerate […]
Kindness
by resolutewoman on August 14, 2021 in change, character, kindness
“Anger requires no effort. Kindness is tough to show.” My book club just read Sue Monk Kidd’s book The Book of Longings, and this is one of my favorite quotes from the book. –Joy
Pay attention
by resolutewoman on July 31, 2021 in families, friends, kindness
“Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity,” philosopher Simone Weil once said.
Kindness and more kindness
by resolutewoman on September 15, 2020 in kindness, Uncategorized, work
“There are three ways to ultimate success,” Mr. Rogers once said. “The first is to be kind. The second is to be kind. The third is to be kind.”
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