I am reading Convictions by Marcus Borg, who always makes me stop and think. One day recently when I was feeling a bit cranky, one of Borg’s statements was especially meaningful. “Life is too short to spend even an hour feeling preoccupied or grumpy or out of sorts,” Borg wrote. –Joy
Now when my dog, Ginger, and I go on our morning walk, we see green grass and flowering trees. My husband, Jerry, says that spring arrived early this year because of climate change. No matter, it officially is arriving on March 20, and it is a happy time. As Emerson said, “The earth laughs in [...]
I just finished reading Hotel on the Corner of Bitter and Sweet by Jamie Ford, and now I’m reading A Long Way Home by Saroo Brierly. Both books describe life as bitter and sweet. How true. –Joy
Booker T. Washington once said: “I have found that the happiest people are those who do the most for others.” We found that message on a Valentine’s card.
While I was in Washington state, I watched the sun go down while I ate a Fanny Bay oyster at a wonderful restaurant next to a river. The menu described the oyster this way: “Firm meat, mild brine, cucumber finish.” It was served with a lemon and a grapefruit mignonette, and it was amazing. This [...]
I’m back from a trip to Bellingham, Washington, where I visited my friends Mark and Eva and also to Winthrop Washington, where I attended Elizabeth and Brooke’s wedding. I looked forward to the trip for months. I had a splendid time, and now I have many happy memories. As Emily Dickinson once wrote, “That it [...]
I asked for pretty stamps at the post office—and I got them! They’re stamps adorned with a lovely, smiling photograph of Maya Angelou, author of I Know Why a Caged Bird Sings. And, I hit the jackpot. There’s a Maya Angelou quote on each stamp and another quote on the sheet of 16 stamps. On [...]
I have retreated to my office on a warm July day in Dallas. I have several errands that I need to do, but I dread braving the scalding summer weather. For a few minutes, I consider how wonderful it would be to spend a day on the beach at Galveston or in the mountains of [...]
“I have lived, indeed, in the world, madam; but I have kept little company,” Marlow says to Kate in Oliver Goldsmith’s “She Stoops to Conquer.” “I have been but an observer upon life, madam, while others were enjoying it.” I recently saw the play performed at Shakespeare in the Park in Dallas, and I was [...]
His Holiness, the Dali Lama says: “If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” Dacher Keltner, who says that his favorite emotions are compassion and awe, shared that quote at a May 31, 2016, Arts & Letters Live presentation in Dallas. Dr. Keltner teaches at Berkeley [...]
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