Elizabeth, the student I visit every week at my local elementary school, and I recently spent our time together reading about the new “Beauty and the Beast” movie because Elizabeth went to see the movie and really liked it. We read in the Disney Beauty and the Beast Official Collector’s Edition book that Belle was [...]
I’ve known Stephanie, who is the same age as my daughter, since she was in elementary school. Now she’s a teacher and the mother of a beautiful baby—Millie Rose. On Sunday, I watched as the baby, dressed in a long white dress, was baptized. She raised her head and looked around, alert and interested, as [...]
“D.C.” was one of many women incarcerated at the David L. Moss Criminal Justice Center in Tulsa, but this particular prisoner took a poetry class and wrote a poem that’s published in a slim book called Poetic Justice. She writes that being a mother is: “like sunshine sometimes. It’s a wonderful melody.” And, then, it [...]
My husband Jerry and I invited our neighbor Lauren, who is in the fourth grade, to go on a holiday carriage ride with us. We heard the clop, clop of the big horses and saw splendid Christmas light displays, and we thoroughly enjoyed Lauren’s company. She told us the name of her best friend and [...]
Susan B. Anthony, who campaigned for women’s right to vote and was arrested in 1872 for trying to vote, stopped going to school when her teacher refused to teach her long division because she was a girl. “Maybe the male teacher felt girls didn’t need to learn such advanced math,” says Mary Kay Carson in [...]
Today, sometimes when I think I’m busy, I remember all that I used to do when I was running my business and running after two active children at the same time. I was reminded of those action-packed days when I found an entry in my journal from April 2009. The entry was about a thank [...]
While my shattered femur has been healing, I have been inspired to do a little cleaning. I’ve been sorting through old business and personal papers—and even getting rid of some of the books that I’ve accumulated through the years. I was comforted when I found an article that I had saved from 2006. “Letting go [...]
I bought a copy of Patricia MacLachlan’s book Sara, Plain and Tall for the third-grade student I “mentor” once a week at an elementary school near my home. I bought it because I remembered when my daughter read it, and the title has always intrigued me. So, I read the book, for ages six to [...]
When I volunteered one night recently with children with special needs, I was pleased to see that one preschooler with autism was talking more. As I watched him, I saw that, like any small child, he wasn’t always on his best behavior. He sometimes acted out, shoving or hitting his older sister. However, I was [...]
The poet Naomi Shahid Nye, whose father is Palestinian, visits schools in the United States and the Middle East. At the Texas Book Festival in Austin, she remembered the students in one classroom in the Middle East. “Do the kids in the United States know we want to be their friends?” the children asked. No [...]
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