Psychologist Martin Seligman found that the three Ps can stunt recovery after the death of someone you love, the loss of a job or any other catastrophe. • Personalization is the belief that we are at fault. • Pervasiveness is the belief that an event will affect all areas of our life. • Permanence is [...]
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Personalization, pervasiveness, permanence
by resolutewoman on June 27, 2017 in book, courage, grief
Critical thinking?
by resolutewoman on June 13, 2017 in book, wisdom
Sarah Bessey reminded me that critical thinking doesn’t always have to be critical. Bessey is the author of Jesus Feminist. –Joy
Why do we read?
by resolutewoman on May 30, 2017 in book, reading
“We read to know that we are not alone,” C.S. Lewis once said. And, R.D. Cummings once said, “A good book has no ending.” I recently found those two quotes on the wall near a bookcase in Tulsa . –Joy
The first independent woman
by resolutewoman on April 25, 2017 in book, resolute-women, sexism
Why has Eve taken all the blame for taking a bite out of that fruit in the Garden of Eden? First, Bruce Feiler wants everyone to understand that the fruit was not an apple. Apples are not grown in the part of the world where the stories of the Bible took place. The fruit might [...]
Have a great life
by resolutewoman on April 20, 2017 in advice, book, resolute-women
Kerry Egan, a hospice chaplain, ends her book On Living with the advice she received from one of her dying patients. “Promise me that you’ll have a great life no matter what happens.”
Finding meaning
by resolutewoman on April 18, 2017 in book, hope
Kerry Egan, author of On Living, is a hospice chaplain who spends a lot of time listening to people’s stories. If you know someone who tells the same stories again and again—and I do, Egan explains that the person is still trying to find meaning in his or her stories. That’s the reason for the [...]
Are you changing?
by resolutewoman on April 15, 2017 in aging, book, wisdom
I’ve been thinking about birthdays because I have several good friends who have March and April birthdays, including my friend Sandra, who is celebrating her 91st birthday. In a book I bought for Sandra—90 and Proud of It, I found this quote from Doris Lessing: “The great secret that all old people share is that [...]
Like a good cheese
by resolutewoman on April 13, 2017 in aging, book
“If wrinkles must be written upon our brows, let them not be written upon the heart,” James A. Garfield once said. “The spirit should never grow old.” I found that quote in a book—90 and Proud of It—that I bought for my friend Sandra, who was celebrating her 91st birthday. And, I also found another [...]
A vast web of misunderstanding
by resolutewoman on April 8, 2017 in book, families
I just went to a cousin’s birthday party in Colorado City, Texas. Although I see most of my cousins on my father’s side of the family at least once a year, I haven’t seen many of the cousins on my mother’s side of the family in years. I was reminded of a line from Anna [...]
A selfless heroine
by resolutewoman on April 6, 2017 in book, children, resolute-women
Elizabeth, the student I visit every week at my local elementary school, and I recently spent our time together reading about the new “Beauty and the Beast” movie because Elizabeth went to see the movie and really liked it. We read in the Disney Beauty and the Beast Official Collector’s Edition book that Belle was [...]
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