I always thought that this was a quote from Abraham Lincoln, but Jon Meacham, in his book And There Was Light–Abraham Lincoln and the American Struggle, attributes it to Theodore Parker. I hope we are bending toward justice. “I do not pretend to understand the moral universe: the arc is a long one, my eye […]
Be still
by resolutewoman on May 23, 2023 in balance, overwhelmed, peace
Rushing. I think I have lots to do. Maybe a bit overwhelmed. “I’ve been thinking,” says Emily St. John Mandel in her book Sea of Tranquility, “a great deal about time and motion lately, about being a still point in the ceaseless rush.” –Joy
Summer trips
by resolutewoman on April 6, 2023 in adventures, balance, change, Uncategorized
Even though I am anticipating summer trips, I found this quote recently in a restaurant and realized how true it is. I can’t wait to go on a trip, and I know, too, I will be glad to return home. “A man (or woman!) travels the world over to find what he ( or she) […]
Joy and sorrow
by resolutewoman on March 18, 2023 in balance, change, grief, Joy, Uncategorized
Lots of sorrow and a little joy. Lots of joy and only a bit Of sorrow. Who can know The formula beforehand? These are words from How Beautiful the Beloved by Gregory Orr. One of the best kinds of friends are friends who give you a book—a book you never would have read if […]
Kind, but strong
by resolutewoman on February 9, 2023 in balance, confidence, kindness, resolute-women, Uncategorized
Jacinda Adern, New Zealand’s youngest ever prime minister, is resigining. After 5-1/2 years as the country’s leader, she concluded, ” “I hope I leave New Zealanders with a belief that you can be kind, but strong, emphatic, but decisive, optimistic, but focused.”
Be positive
by resolutewoman on January 10, 2023 in balance, holidays, optimism
Yes, I had COVID. But, I didn’t go to the hospital. I don’t have long COVID. I am much better. I am going to count my blessings and have a positive attitude during 2023. That’s my Resolution #5. –Joy
On to Thanksgiving
by resolutewoman on November 12, 2022 in advice, balance, celebrations, Uncategorized
The elections are over—or almost over–and I’m ready to move on to happy times. Let’s begin the holidays. At least, there are a few things we can agree on. As Nora Ephron once said, “The turkey. The sweet potatoes. The stuffing. The pumpkin pie. Is there anything else we can agree so vehemently about?” –Joy
They give me joy
by resolutewoman on October 18, 2022 in balance, beauty, happiness, Uncategorized
I returned from a trip and then welcomed company who arrived just a couple of days later. Finally, this morning, I went for my morning walk again–following the path in my neighborhood that I have taken for more than 30 years. Even though I enjoyed my travels and my guest very much, it was delightful […]
Take a break
by resolutewoman on June 7, 2022 in advice, balance, change
Give yourself permission to relax, rest, do fewer projects, take a break, advises Lisa Congdon in her book You Will Leave a Trail of Stars. “You have “permission to take an intermission.” –Joy
Think positive thoughts
by resolutewoman on June 4, 2022 in advice, balance, change
“We are what we think,” Buddha once said. “All that we are arises with our thoughts. We make the world.” I found this quote in Lisa Congdon’s book You Will Leave a Trail of Stars. –Joy
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