Families are never perfect. Holidays are never perfect. The world is not perfect. This holiday season, I am going to enjoy my wonderful, but not perfect, family, and I am going to have a wonderful, but not perfect, holiday. –Joy
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On to Thanksgiving
by resolutewoman on November 12, 2022 in advice, balance, celebrations, Uncategorized
The elections are over—or almost over–and I’m ready to move on to happy times. Let’s begin the holidays. At least, there are a few things we can agree on. As Nora Ephron once said, “The turkey. The sweet potatoes. The stuffing. The pumpkin pie. Is there anything else we can agree so vehemently about?” –Joy
Ghastly goblins
by resolutewoman on October 29, 2022 in advice, change
Here’s my message for this year’s Halloween. “Be sure to vote to keep the ghastly goblins out of government!” –Joy
No more secrets
by resolutewoman on September 3, 2022 in advice, families, friends, secrets
“Secrets work on me like splinters. I like them out.” These words are from a delightful book by Michelle Huneven. It’s called Search, and it’s about a search committee looking for a new minister for a progressive California Universal Unitarian church.
Being normal?
by resolutewoman on August 23, 2022 in advice, character, confidence
“My darling girl,” says Aunt Frances in Practical Magic, “when are you going to realize that being normal is not necessarily a virtue? It rather denotes a lack of courage.” I found this quote in the gift shop at the Albuquerque Museum. –Joy
Take a break
by resolutewoman on June 7, 2022 in advice, balance, change
Give yourself permission to relax, rest, do fewer projects, take a break, advises Lisa Congdon in her book You Will Leave a Trail of Stars. “You have “permission to take an intermission.” –Joy
Think positive thoughts
by resolutewoman on June 4, 2022 in advice, balance, change
“We are what we think,” Buddha once said. “All that we are arises with our thoughts. We make the world.” I found this quote in Lisa Congdon’s book You Will Leave a Trail of Stars. –Joy
Go together
by resolutewoman on June 2, 2022 in advice, change, courage
An African proverb advises, “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.” I found this quote in Lisa Congdon’s book You Will Leave a Trail of Stars. –Joy
Just show up
by resolutewoman on May 28, 2022 in advice, courage, kindness
Author Kate Bowler recently did a podcast with the Archbishop of Canterbury Justin Welby, who offered this advice when it comes to showing up for people in difficult times: Just. Show. Up.
Purple people?
by resolutewoman on May 24, 2022 in advice, book, happiness, work
I am helping with a Girl Scout summer book club—and being around a bunch of eager, smiling girls makes me feel a bit happier. Recently, we read the book The World Needs More Purple People by Kristen Bell and Benjamin Hart. According to these authors, we all need to be more purple, and they define […]
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