“A woman without a husband is not a problem to be solved,” writes Jane Austen in her book Persuasion. Jane Austen is a wise woman. I am reading Persuasion again. –Joy
Defining your worth
by resolutewoman on May 9, 2023 in advice, character, confidence, resolute-women
“I do know one thing about me: I don’t measure myself by others’ expectations or let others define my worth,” says Supreme Court Justice Sonia Sotomayor.
Expect to be taken seriously
by resolutewoman on April 27, 2023 in advice, confidence
When artist Genesis Tramaine spoke April 19, 2023, at Arts & Letters Live in Dallas, a young woman raised her hand to ask a question. “When did people start taking your art seriously?” the young woman asked. “I didn’t wait for my work to be considered legitimate,” Tramaine answered. “I expected it. When I paint […]
Avoid restaurants with gardens!
by resolutewoman on April 11, 2023 in advice, sexism
The Taliban have banned families and women from restaurants with gardens or green spaces in Afghanistan’s northwestern Herat province, The Dallas Morning News reported in its April 11, 2023, issue. They’re concerned about “the mixing of genders” in such places!?
How are the women treated?
by resolutewoman on March 28, 2023 in advice, kindness, sexism
The best of you are those who are best to the women,” the Prophet Muhammad said. I found this quote in Manal Al-Sharif’s book Daring to Drive. –Joy
Wonderful, but not perfect
by resolutewoman on December 20, 2022 in advice, celebrations, happiness
Families are never perfect. Holidays are never perfect. The world is not perfect. This holiday season, I am going to enjoy my wonderful, but not perfect, family, and I am going to have a wonderful, but not perfect, holiday. –Joy
On to Thanksgiving
by resolutewoman on November 12, 2022 in advice, balance, celebrations, Uncategorized
The elections are over—or almost over–and I’m ready to move on to happy times. Let’s begin the holidays. At least, there are a few things we can agree on. As Nora Ephron once said, “The turkey. The sweet potatoes. The stuffing. The pumpkin pie. Is there anything else we can agree so vehemently about?” –Joy
Ghastly goblins
by resolutewoman on October 29, 2022 in advice, change
Here’s my message for this year’s Halloween. “Be sure to vote to keep the ghastly goblins out of government!” –Joy
No more secrets
by resolutewoman on September 3, 2022 in advice, families, friends, secrets
“Secrets work on me like splinters. I like them out.” These words are from a delightful book by Michelle Huneven. It’s called Search, and it’s about a search committee looking for a new minister for a progressive California Universal Unitarian church.
Being normal?
by resolutewoman on August 23, 2022 in advice, character, confidence
“My darling girl,” says Aunt Frances in Practical Magic, “when are you going to realize that being normal is not necessarily a virtue? It rather denotes a lack of courage.” I found this quote in the gift shop at the Albuquerque Museum. –Joy
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We wrote our book and we’re writing our blog because we were frustrated. We were frustrated with experts who try to tell people how to lose weight, raise their children and improve their marriages—and be a success—in 10 easy steps. In three weeks. In one book.
Our self-help book and blog are for grownups—for women who know that there are no easy answers to life’s complex problems—that finding solutions requires some self-knowledge and self-searching and hard work.
We want to help women discover their own answers and live with them as their guide. We want to help you and other women Help Yourself!
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