The Way Things Are

We wrote our book and we’re writing our blog because we were frustrated. We were frustrated with experts who try to tell people how to lose weight, raise their children and improve their marriages—and be a success—in 10 easy steps. In three weeks. In one book.

Our self-help book and blog are for grownups—for women who know that there are no easy answers to life’s complex problems—that finding solutions requires some self-knowledge and self-searching and hard work.

We want to help women discover their own answers and live with them as their guide. We want to help you and other women Help Yourself!

We write about making changes and also about many other issues important to women, including families, friends, work and food.