“A hidden smile from within”

We’ve just read a delightful book by the Jesuit priest James Martin—Between Heaven and Mirth: Why Joy, Humor and Laughter Are at the Heart of the Spiritual Life. The book is filled with reminders about the importance of humor and laughter in our lives. Of course, Martin reminds us that we’re not supposed to be […]

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A new wedding tradition

According to The New York Times, brides are adding something to the traditional something old, something borrowed, something blue. Many are getting ready for the wedding by crash dieting, the Times reported in “Bridal Hunger Games: Losing Weight in Time for the Wedding” on April 13, 2012. Some are even spending $1,500 to have a […]

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What’s required?

I explained to Mary Elizabeth, my college-student daughter, that her dad and I were going to a Sunday School brunch and then church services on Easter Sunday. “You’re welcome to come with us,” I told her. “Am I required to go?” she asked. I paused a moment and then smiled. “We would like for you […]

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Building better boundaries

When I was married to my first husband, I was still a pleaser. My ex-husband loved to tease me, and I hated to be teased. He once called me his “petite pachyderm” when I was pregnant, and I acted as if I thought he was funny even though I felt humiliated and angry. I was […]

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Strong boundaries/weak boundaries

Joy called me and asked how I am doing and then all of a sudden I realized I was talking about how my daughter Ranna is doing. Why did I feel uneasy? Because I was not honoring the boundaries between myself and my adult daughter. Ranna was listening to my phone conversation, and she understood […]

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I danced an Irish jig

What do you say when the nurse calls and tells your daughter that she is cancer-free? Words, of course, can never express the relief and happiness I felt. I didn’t say anything. After 15 months of watching Ranna battle cancer and trying my best to help her and sometimes fearing the worst, how could I […]

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I’m patting myself on the back

I just returned home after spending two weeks and two days in Tulsa helping take care of my brother-in-law who was in the hospital with congestive heart failure. I was delighted when I stepped on the scales this morning and I weighed one pound less than I did when I left home. For me, that’s […]

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I’m throwing away the salt shaker

I have decided to eat a heart-healthy diet. I’ll have lots of fruits and vegetables. Everything is going to be low fat and low sodium. It was an easy decision to make after spending two weeks and two days helping take care of my brother-in-law who has congestive heart failure and just had six stints […]

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One nice thing

I’m sharing more wisdom from the doctor’s waiting room. Just when I was about to lose my cool, tired and frustrated from trying to help take care of my very ill brother-in-law, I read this in the January/February issue of Web M.D. Before you climb out of bed in the morning, “spend 20 seconds thinking […]

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Wisdom from the waiting room

I discovered this bit of wisdom in a magazine while spending a couple of hours waiting in a doctor’s office. I consider it wisdom because it confirms something I already knew to be true. It’s always good to have reminders. The wisdom? Setbacks are an essential part of learning. If you encounter a setback, keep […]

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