The joy of aging

I just finished reading a fascinating book by Dr. George Vaillant, director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development. It’s titled Aging Well—Surprising Guideposts to a Happier Life from the Landmark Harvard Study of Adult Development. Of course, even though I now have two children who are college graduates and I was well past my […]

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A sense of accomplishment

For months, I’ve felt a little depressed every time I’ve looked at all of the boxes that we crammed into the garage when my husband and I moved into my mother’s house. Not anymore.  We finally took the time to sort through the boxes, sending piles of clothes and miscellaneous items to a charity. I […]

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Tarantulas for dinner?

I learned this on a trip to Tulsa while reading Spirit, the Southwest Airline magazine. More than 2.5 billion people around the world eat insects every day. In Cambodia, tarantulas are fried whole, with a little sugar, salt and garlic. And, a tarantula has 18 more grams of protein than a strip steak. Yes, I […]

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The bad news and the good news

My son Jay just got a new car. That’s the good news. And the bad news? The third day Jay was driving the car, he called his father. “The car is okay,” he said, “but….” My husband panicked immediately. His mind leaping ahead after Jay’s first words, he feared a terrible accident. Jay had turned […]

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Cultivate your friendships

“A friend is a gift you give yourself,” Robert Louis Stevenson once said. We talked in our last blog post about the importance of friendship. Sometimes, suddenly, you meet someone and make a connection. You know that you have a new friend. And, then, sometimes, you get to know a colleague at work or a […]

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The importance of friendship

In the May 2012 issue of The Atlantic magazine, Stephen Marche tells the story of Yvette Vickers, a former Playboy playmate and B-movie star, who lay dead in her home in Los Angeles “for the better part of a year”  before a neighbor found her mummified body. Yvette Vickers, Marche says, had no children, no […]

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“You can adjust the sail”

We were talking in my Sunday School class about the need to accept disappointments in life and to accept people as they are—and, most important, to accept that we can’t control everything. Will remembered the words to a song Ricky Skaggs sings—“We can’t control the wind but we can adjust the sail.” What a wonderful […]

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Lessons from Roz Savage

Roz Savage spoke at my son Jay’s graduation at the University of Tulsa. Have you heard of Roz Savage? I hadn’t. Now I know that she was the first woman to row across three oceans—the Atlantic, Pacific and Indian. She has rowed more than 15,000 miles, sometimes braving 20-foot waves, once capsizing three times in […]

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“Just get off your rear”

At age 81, Dr. Kenneth Cooper has switched from running to brisk walking. Do whatever you can, and do it with gusto, he advises. “Just avoid inactivity. You don’t have to run a marathon. Just get off your rear.” Cooper, the founder and chairman of the Cooper Aerobics Center in Dallas, talked recently to Steve […]

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How did I build better boundaries?

I wish I had a simple answer. I don’t. For most of life’s big issues, there are simple answers that provide a glimpse of the truth. And, then, there are long answers that reveal the truth. I built better boundaries by getting to know myself, figuring out who I was and what I wanted to […]

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