Express gratitude

In their book Supersurvivors—The Surprising Link Between Suffering and Success, David Feldman and Lee Daniel Kravetz suggest relying on “grounded hope” instead of positive thinking. You have grounded hope if your hope is rooted in reality. You know that you can’t always control what happens to you. But, you believe that, whatever happens to you, […]

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Know what you can control

Grounded hope is hope rooted in reality. It’s the powerful belief that, whatever happens to you, you can make choices and control how you act and react. But, what if you have a tendency to want to control everything? That’s the question I asked David Feldman, who talked about his book Supersurvivors at the Texas […]

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Grounded hope

What’s wrong with positive thinking? In their book Supersurvivors, David Feldman and Lee Daniel Kravetz explain: The supporters of positive thinking get to have it their way no matter what. If people succeed at work, thrive in life or survive an illness, those supporters can say, “See! It was the positive thinking that did it.” […]

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Are you a supersurvivor?

A leukemia sufferer who won an Olympic gold medal. A blind man who rowed across the Atlantic. A woman who survived genocide in Rwanda. These are some of the the supersurvivors whose stories are discussed in David Feldman and Lee Daniel Kravetz’s book Supersurvivors—The Surprising Link Between Suffering and Success. What do these people have […]

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A quiet day! An Old Year’s Resolution

I love the holiday season. I love going to see the Dallas Theater Center’s production of “A Christmas Carol” every year. I love parties with my friends and attending the Christmas Eve service at my church with my family. However, sometimes, often, the holiday season can be too overwhelming, too frantic, too busy. I am […]

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The imperfect? An Old Year’s Resolution

Last year, as I put up the Christmas wreath and decorated the Christmas tree, I vowed to clean house, get rid of the clutter and be ready to celebrate the next Christmas in a pristine house. I didn’t do it. I still have too much stuff in my house. However, I am not going to […]

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The status quo? An Old Year’s resolution

Yikes! It’s December. I was standing in the middle of a department store surrounded by Christmas decorations and Christmas cards and Christmas presents when I remembered that I have not achieved all of my New Year’s resolutions. What am I going to do? I am going to make three Old Year’s resolutions for December. Not […]

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The fullness of life

We all know that we feel better—much better—when we’re thankful. “Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life,” explained Melody Beattie in The Language of Letting Go. “It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity.” We found Beattie’s quote in the November 2014 issue of […]

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We’re thankful for family

Ranna, Fayteen’s daughter, has been in the hospital. We are thankful that she is home from the hospital and growing stronger. My son, Jay, was sure that he could come home for Christmas, but he wasn’t sure if he would be able to come home for Thanksgiving. “He has to come home for Thanksgiving,” his […]

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We’re thankful for friends

I’ve known Fayteen for 25 years—and I’ve known her daughter, Ranna, for almost as long. Once, earlier this year, Ranna thanked me for visiting her when she was ill. “Ranna,” I told her, “I consider you to be a good friend—a good friend who has become part of my family.” This Thanksgiving, I am thankful […]

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