Marcus Borg wrote his book Convictions after his 70th birthday. “At 70, I primarily feel gratitude,” he wrote in the first chapter. “Each extra day feels like lagniappe, a Cajun French word that means ‘something extra’—like the cherry on top of the whipped cream on top of the hot fudge on top of the ice [...]
I am reading Convictions by Marcus Borg, who always makes me stop and think. One day recently when I was feeling a bit cranky, one of Borg’s statements was especially meaningful. “Life is too short to spend even an hour feeling preoccupied or grumpy or out of sorts,” Borg wrote. –Joy
Every morning when the alarm goes off, I hesitate a minute. And, then I tell myself: “Get up and do your exercises!” I do them. Every morning. Even when I would much prefer to be sleeping a bit longer. Soon, I’m finished. I’ve learned that I need to do my exercises immediately—as soon as I [...]
Why do you think it’s good for a mother to have a job? In its March 13, 2017, issue, Time magazine asked Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, the Nigerian author, that question, and she answered: “One of my favorite sayings in Igbo translates very loosely to ‘a woman must have her own.’ It’s the idea of a [...]
Everyone has a story—or two or three, and most of us tell the stories that define our lives over and over, explained author George Saunders at an Art & Letters Live presentation in Dallas on March 8, 2017. I’ve been thinking about my stories. What are the stories about my life that I tell over [...]
George Saunders writes about Abraham Lincoln, ghosts and life in his new book Lincoln in the Bardo. “We know the truth of life, which is that everything comes and goes; everything is conditional,” Saunders told The Dallas Morning News. “So, how do you make a joyful, productive life in the face of that knowledge?”
Emerson said, “The earth laughs in flowers.” That is one of my favorite quotes, and here are two more quotes that are wonderful for spring—or for any time. Whitman said, “With every leaf a miracle.” And, anonymous said, “Friends are the flowers in the garden of life.” –Joy
Now when my dog, Ginger, and I go on our morning walk, we see green grass and flowering trees. My husband, Jerry, says that spring arrived early this year because of climate change. No matter, it officially is arriving on March 20, and it is a happy time. As Emerson said, “The earth laughs in [...]
I’m Irish; so, I’m sending you an old Irish blessing for St. Patrick’s Day. May love and laughter light your days and warm your heart and home. May good and faithful friends be yours, wherever you may roam. –Joy
I just finished reading Hotel on the Corner of Bitter and Sweet by Jamie Ford, and now I’m reading A Long Way Home by Saroo Brierly. Both books describe life as bitter and sweet. How true. –Joy
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