Albert Einstein once said that the single most important decision any of us will ever make is whether or not to believe that the universe is friendly. I have made a choice. I still believe the universe, my world, is friendly—and that the future will be better, happier, friendlier than it is today. –Joy
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Postpone it
by resolutewoman on March 28, 2020 in celebrations, change, courage, families
There was supposed to be a shower for Rachel, my son Jay’s bride-to-be, today, March 28, a couples’ shower on April 25 and a wedding on May 30. Now all of the wedding celebrations have been canceled/postponed. Jay and Rachel will get married today—March 28, 2020—in Tulsa with Rachel’s parents attending, but standing six feet […]
No man–or woman–is an island
by resolutewoman on March 26, 2020 in change, stress, wisdom
“We are each other’s keepers,” writes William Falk, editor-in-chief of The Week magazine. “Deeper truths often are delivered in the envelope of a crisis. Falk quotes John Donne, who said: “No man (or woman) is an island. Every man (or woman) is a piece of the continent, a part of the main.”
Take a break
by resolutewoman on March 24, 2020 in change, overwhelmed, peace
My husband Jerry read me another article about how long this virus crisis may last and how our lives may be changed forever. “Stop,” I told him. “I don’t want to hear it.” I will stay informed, but I am going to take a break now and then from all of the depressing news. –Joy
Be kind
by resolutewoman on March 21, 2020 in families, kindness, Uncategorized
My husband Jerry reminds me that we are not quarantined. We just are practicing social distancing. We are not going anywhere or having contact with anyone until there is no danger from the coronavirus.. It’s the two of us and our dog Jack together in our house—for who knows how long. One day a week […]
Call a friend
by resolutewoman on March 19, 2020 in friends, happiness, health
Fayteen, her daughter Ranna and I had lunch last week, and we agreed to have lunch again—soon, we hope—as soon as the dangers from the coronavirus have disappeared. We promised to keep in touch with text messages, email messages and phone calls. This is a good time to talk to friends on the phone. I […]
Take a walk
by resolutewoman on March 17, 2020 in happiness, health, peace
I am continuing my early morning walks—without stops to talk to my neighbors, the ones I see every morning because they are regular walkers, too. Of course, we can yell to each other from across the street. While I can’t go out to eat with a friend or even go to the bookstore, it’s is […]
Peace and uncertainty
by resolutewoman on March 14, 2020 in change, hope, peace
My husband Jerry and I are now self-quarantined in our home with food for several weeks and plenty of books to read and closets to clean. Still, I keep feeling anxious about all of the uncertainty. And, what about my son Jay’s May wedding? And, why am I worrying about a wedding when some people […]
Look with intensity
by resolutewoman on March 12, 2020 in adventures, beauty
“There is everything left to explore. We just need to look with the right intensity and depth,” says artist Mark Dion, whose collections are featured in an exhibit at the Amon Carter Museum in Fort Worth.
Food and cheer
by resolutewoman on March 10, 2020 in celebrations, friends, happiness
“If more of us valued food and cheer and song above hoarded gold, it would be a merrier place,” J.R.R. Tolkien once said.
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